Good Times and Giveaways

Two weekends ago AC and I witnessed a real live bank robbery with guns and police and all manner of hoopla.  We also shopped for jeans and the final pieces for the greatest Halloween costume of all time.  I bought her a cookie at the mall.  We played in the shoe department and she tried on all the high-heels and boots.  She put on lip gloss and blush at the makeup counters.  I even put the XM radio on Radio Disney.  And that was just Saturday.

I was a shoe-in for Mom of the Week.  (I don’t aim for Mom of the Year anymore- too much pressure.  I’m more of a week to week kind of gal.)

So you can imagine my surprise when my mom asked her what she did over the weekend and her reply was:
“Oh, not much.  But, oh!  Guess what?  We did see one really cool thing.”

I was waiting for the bank robbery story.  Or maybe the Ugg Cardy boot story. (That is a short story by the way.  I want some.  Ugg Cardy boots that is.  Grey ones.  Size 7.)

She told neither the bank robbery story nor the Ugg story.

She told this story.

“Oh, it was so cool.  We were going to get a scary movie, but then G wanted to get a movie for school.  So we did.  And then we went home to watch it.  And guess what?  It was BLACK AND WHITE.”

You could hear laughter from my mom’s end of the phone.

“No, seriously.  It was all black and white.  There was no color.  It was the same people as the ones on the cover, but they didn’t have any color.  Have you ever seen that before?…You have?   You did?  It was?  Well, when did they get color?  Huh.  You’re old.”

The laughter from my mom’s end stopped.

But that child has gone on and on about the wonder of the black and white movie for two weeks.  We watched To Kill a Mockingbird if you’re wondering.  If you haven’t seen it with your kids, I would highly recommend it.  It equally mesmerized the 14-year-old and the 10-year-old.

And y’all?  We talked. 

We talked about why people get embarrassed when they don’t have the money to pay for things they really need.  And why it’s important not to make people feel badly because they don’t have a lot of money.  We talked about why everyone was so mean to Boo Radley just because he was different. 

And that little 10-year-old who vacillates between being some sort of 21st century sage and a Jersey Shore reject observed that all the adults in her life encourage her to be different.  Unique is good; sameness is bad.  But then people are mean to you for being unique. People really just want you to be like them.  That’s what she said.  I just fell into a deep depression because she was right, and I realized that perhaps the innocence was fading quicker than I’d like.
I asked her why she thought that was the case.

Her look of disgust and disbelief that I didn’t know the answer was priceless. 

“Duh.  Boo Radley scared everybody.  He’s supposed to show you that different is scary, and if you don’t want people to tell the neighborhood that you stabbed your father with scissors, then you need to be like everybody else.”

Told you.  Sometimes she’s Aristotle, sometimes she’s Snooki.  It’s a toss-up.

Anyway, I’ve been thinking about that movie and that conversation for two weeks.  I’ve also been reading Modern Parents, Vintage Values by Melissa Trevathan and Sissy Goff.  My aunt, who has one of the coolest jobs around working for Broadman and Holman, sent it to me in the mail.  She told me to let her know what I thought.

So I will.  And I’ll let you know too.

Genius.  Pure genius.  Some of what they have to say about parenting seems to be common sense, but we all know that common sense was removed from our culture a while ago, so it bears repeating.  But they also reveal quite a bit of information about teen/tween culture that I didn’t know.  It’s vital information for me.  I have two kids who are currently in those two categories, but I spend almost every waking minute of my life with 14-18-year olds.  It’s pertinent.

It’s also practical.  They do tell you what’s going on, what it looks like for a teenager in today’s culture.  But they don’t leave you hanging there scratching your head and thinking that your only hope is to home school them and never let them out of the house.

Matter of fact, they encourage things like Facebook, and cell phones, and various other pieces of technology.  They give suggestions to parents so that we can be culturally relevant and our kids can be culturally relevant without being devoured by it.
It’s good.  If you have children I would go so far as to say it’s a MUST READ.

So, I’m giving two away.

If you want a chance at winning, leave a comment below and tell me you’re biggest parenting challenge.

See y’all!

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7 Comments on Good Times and Giveaways

  1. Bella Michelle
    November 3, 2010 at 3:28 pm (7 years ago)

    I love book give-a-ways and as the mom of 9 and 13 year old boys…my biggest challenge is doing this Mom thing to BOYS!

  2. Heather @ Multiple Hats
    November 3, 2010 at 4:34 pm (7 years ago)

    Right now, my biggest challenge is TWEEN attitude. Not sure we’ll even get to the TEEN years . . .

  3. leighannepainter
    November 3, 2010 at 10:53 pm (7 years ago)

    WOW…my biggest parenting challenge is teaching my 3 kids, that were born within four years of each other, that just because one of them gets something or gets to do something doesn’t mean that the other two get something…ha!

  4. Tracie
    November 4, 2010 at 8:01 am (7 years ago)

    Well, my husband and I are parents to 4 kids (14b, 11g, 4g and 3b). I think the hardest thing right now is having 2 in not so great stages–attitude of the teen/tween and the cry at the drop of a hat 4 year old and the raging hormones of the 11 year old ! I’m sure we’ll make it–that sounded believable right?!!

  5. Gena
    November 4, 2010 at 10:07 am (7 years ago)

    My biggest parentin challenge? Where do I begin? Trying to bond with a 15 year old boy whom we adopted at 12 (Ethiopia said he was 10). His/my control issues. Trying to advocate for him at school/motivate him to want to go to school. I guess this adoption in general. We know it was a God thing, so we just keep on keeping on with Him.
    Didn’t mean to sound so negative. Older adoption is just hard. There are good times too. Like watching him play football tonight because he worked hard and got his grades up.

  6. Stacie
    November 4, 2010 at 3:35 pm (7 years ago)

    My biggest parenting challenge is simply that she’s 14.

  7. HoodMama
    November 5, 2010 at 12:45 pm (7 years ago)

    I missed it but I’m for sure gonna read it!
    My biggest parenting challenge is that, unfortunately, they’re just like me at their age.


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